BLOG: Seeing beyond stigma surrounding suicide survivors
When I was 12, I attempted suicide three times. It’s not something I bring up in casual conversation or toss out as a fun fact during first day of class introductions. Although it is a huge part of my story, it rarely feels relevant to discuss.
While Suicide Prevention Month is during the month of September, there should never be a limit to when society calls attention to one of the leading causes of death worldwide. Statistically, there is one suicide in the United States every 12 minutes. That means over the course of a typical three-hour college course, approximately 15 lives are lost.
Sadly, there’s a stigma attached to those of us who admit this truth. However, I believe our stories prove hope exists.
Far too often kids are subjected to bullying and harassment while feeling as though telling someone won’t help matters. This was the case for my 12-year-old self who faced the same internal struggle.
Growing up, I knew I was loved. That was never a question. Yet, when you spend more time in the classroom instead of at home, it is far too easy for the hate and prejudice from peers to cause depression to settle inside your mind.
As a closeted gay, Christian Latinx kid, it was easier to conceal my emotions and endure the mostly verbal hits. To this day, I can recall the times I attempted suicide and how I would break down in tears before going too far.
The struggle to stay positive and see the light at the end of a dark tunnel is tough. Even though it took years of forcing myself to get out of bed, sit in silence and let words leave bruises on my confidence, I was able to hope again.
Every person’s experience is different. Not everyone who has had suicidal thoughts is depressed or suffers from mental illness. In fact, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reports 54% of people who have died by suicide did not have a known mental health condition.
Various factors contribute to suicidal thoughts including relationship problems, recent crisis, substance use, physical health issues, job or financial problems, and loss of housing. Therefore, this is not merely a black or white situation. There are complexities that go beyond any assumption or research.
With this in mind, it’s time we as a community learn the risk factors and warning signs for suicide. These signs include, but not limited to, talking about wanting to die, feeling hopeless or trapped, sleeping too little or much, isolation, extreme mood swing, or increasing alcohol or drug use.
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, reach out for help. Personally, I know asking for help isn’t easy and feels somewhat embarrassing. However, your life and the life of a loved one is worth more.
For UHCL Counseling Services crisis assistance, call 281-283-2580. The Counseling Services office is located in SSCB 3103 and open Monday through Thursday from 8 a.m. – 6 p.m., and Fridays 8 a.m. – 5 p.m.
For the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, call 1-800-273-8255. The Lifeline offers free, 24/7 confidential support you and loved ones. Additionally, their website provides specific resources for youth, LGBTQ+ individuals, veterans, disaster survivors and more.
